About Me

Nelson Hernández

Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist Associate

First of all, you may refer to me with he, him, and his pronouns. For example, “He went to the bathroom.” In the following paragraph, I highlight moments of my own life that are significant to my personal and professional values.

NOTE: My thoughts as described on this page are always works in (and towards) progress. If you find yourself doubting your choice to begin therapy with me due to something you see on this page, I invite you to speak with me about it.

Brief Bio: My parents and I immigrated to south Florida from La Habana, Cuba in 1995. While my parents and I were born in La Habana, my mom’s family is from Las Tunas and my dad’s family is from Villa Clara. I’m still doing a lot of my own ancestral work, in order to better understand my family’s roots and cultural history. In the United States, I grew up in the working class; my mom has worked primarily in retail and childcare while my dad’s worked primarily in construction and maintenance.

When I was fifteen years old, I came out to my parents and we went to one session of family therapy together. My dad remembers the therapist saying, “It’s a shame to see such a good family break up ‘cause of this.” Thankfully, after a year of us all figuring it out, they were accepting of that new identity and of my relationships.

As an adult, I participated in my first individual experience of therapy at a college counseling service. For a number of personal reasons, I found it helpful to continue consulting with a variety of mental health professionals throughout my twenties. In 2016, I married my former partner and we moved to San Antonio for me to attend grad school; he and I split up nearly a year afterward. My current partner and I celebrated three years together in November 2021 and they have critically shaped my understanding of relationships and community.

Most recently, after completing my degree program, I was diagnosed with ADHD for the first time ever. After a year’s long process of medication management and adapting processes, I found what works for me. This necessarily included acknowledging the disabling effects of certain societal expectations, specifically those rooted in neurotypicality and capitalism.

On LinkedIn, I’ve got more information about my academic and work history if you’re interested in reading more.

My Approach to Therapy

My approach to therapy centers on systems, especially the family (chosen, blood, etc.), even in individual sessions. Therapy creates a space for resolving issues, managing conflict, and also finding a greater understanding of your personal and relational goals and values. As we build towards solutions in the session, the work will be collaborative and tuned in to the stories you bring. When considering my own participation in a therapy session, my direction is guided by one of three A’s:

  1. How can I accompany you (or y’all) in session as you share important and possibly sensitive stories?
  2. How can I advocate and be in your corner when you’re facing an unfair system or unjust roadblocks?
  3. How can we use my experience and my reach to help you (or y’all) access important tools and resources?

Selection of Topics

The following includes some areas I have experience with when working with families, couples (or partners), and individuals in therapy:

Families

  • Co-Parenting
  • Death in the Family
  • Disability of Family Member
  • Foster Care and Child Protective Services
  • Incarcerated Family Member
  • Parenting Kids with High Needs

Couples

  • Abortion & Miscarriage
  • Adoption
  • Intimate Partner Violence
  • Non-Monogamous Relationships
  • Separation & Divorce
  • Sex & Intimacy

Individuals

  • Excessive Use or Addiction
  • Mental Health Conditions
  • Physical Disability
  • Psychosocial Disability
  • Suicidal Ideation
  • Traumatic Experience